Internet commentators were outraged after a woman revealed why she was forced to change her clothes moments before her brother’s wedding.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/TrueOffMyChest, Redditor u/throwra4209975 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said her husband objected to the dress she chose for the wedding and went to great lengths to make sure she could’ I don’t wear it.
Titled “My husband doused the dress I was going to wear to my brother’s wedding with water because he thought it was too revealing,” the post received more than 15,000 upvotes and 2,000 comments last. day.
“My husband and I were invited to my brother’s wedding,” OP began. “I had a knee-length dress with straps over the shoulder and back to wear.”
Continuing to explain that her husband felt the dress was “too revealing”, the original poster said she brushed off her criticism and refused to change into anything else, much to her dismay. consternation.
“He waited [until] I was wearing it then splashed water on it,” OP wrote. “I was in shock!
“He was already in his suit ready to go to the wedding [and] he told me he would wait for me in the car while I changed,” OP continued. “I yelled at him to get the hell out and get out.
“He didn’t even apologize! I kept ranting about how I ignored his feelings towards the dress and disrespected his opinion,” OP added. “We’re not talking…and he thinks he did me a ‘favor’ and kept my ‘dignity’.”
Relationships, no matter how long, can break down quickly.
And where some couples are able to maintain a high level of respect and adoration for decades, certain behaviors exhibited between partners are likely to erode trust and, therefore, their relationship.
Exercising control over a partner’s choices, where they go and how they dress – often associated with instances of abuse – is one such behavior.
According to Lia Huynh, a licensed marriage and family therapist, a partner’s need for control is most often rooted in insecurity and can leave other partners feeling judged and stifled.
“Beneath the need for control, there is fear,” Huynh said. Newsweek.
There is a much higher risk of relationship problems when these fears are not communicated in a clear and respectful way. And when problems are ignored and left undone, bigger problems are sure to arise.
“By the time you’re pouring drinks, there’s probably been levels of struggle in the relationship below that need to be resolved,” Huynh said. Newsweek.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, many Redditors echoed this sentiment.
Many other Redditors, however, encouraged the original poster to completely reevaluate her relationship, speculating that being doused in water was more indicative of a trend than an isolated event.
“Something tells me this isn’t the first incident of this kind of behavior on his part,” Redditor u/SaveusJebus commented, receiving over 12,600 upvotes.
“I guarantee this isn’t the first time he’s criticized what she wore, or resorted to little antics to get his way,” Redditor u/StevesMcQueenIsHere added. “This is abusive behavior, plain and simple.”
“Time to come up with a safe exit plan,” added Redditor u/schwarzmalerin.
In the post’s top comment, which received nearly 14,000 upvotes, Redditor u/Fine-Trouble8442 said the original poster should have kept the dress, to show her family what her husband has been up to.
“I would wear [it] dripping just to spite her insecure ass,” they wrote.
“What if anyone asks,” commented Redditor u/Soobobaloula, “[Say] ‘my husband threw cold water on me.'”
Newsweek has contacted u/throwra4209975 for comment. We were unable to verify the details of the case.
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